Although it may seem intuitive to talk about this, I’d caution you to think before you act. Bringing something up this early can send a message to your potential mate that you’re anxious about your attachment and might be a high-maintenance person who can’t handle having space in a relationship. The downfall of both of these strategies is that they stem from an inability to deal with uncomfortable feelings. The uncertainty and ambiguity of not knowing where you stand are difficult to handle, and you might think you don’t have the capacity to sit back and see what happens next. But you do. So, here are five tips to help you tolerate discomfort rather than being ruled by it: Remember, like most growth experiences, learning how to tolerate emotional discomfort becomes easier the more you practice. As you develop a greater ability to manage your emotions, you will notice yourself becoming more resourceful during the difficult moments in your relationships. And with that resiliency, you will become different in the world in general — more open to life.
